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As Within so Without

This is the fundamental necessity – the base foundation for building the practice you want. A belief that you can only create what you embody yourself. A belief that you can only take clients to places you have been.

Many therapists have heard this, and know it, but have resistance to getting past it. What follows are complaints I often hear from therapists struggling with their practice, and my advice on how to resolve them. You may find yourself in one or more of these places. These are questions I would ask you, and steps I would suggest that you take.

was ist die beste Trading-Software für binäre Optionen “Clients don’t want to pay my full fee ($150 lets say) for weekly sessions”.

Do you pay $150/week for your own weekly therapy sessions? Have you before? Did you find value and transformational change in your own work? Do you find a way to fit it into your budget? Do you see your own therapy as necessary to support your life? If not, why would your clients believe in something you don’t? Why would they stretch their budget enough when you won’t?

A different issue may be your value. Do you feel your sessions are worth $150? Are you just recently licensed and placing your fee as that of a tenured therapist? Is it a question of fair market value or are you fighting off a sinking feeling that you shouldn’t be charging that much?

When I was first licensed, my fee was $80 on average. That was the value I felt I had. Senior colleagues of mine were charging $125 on the average. It felt congruent for me to charge a lower fee and I had an easy time asking for it, and collecting it. As the years passed, I raised my fee as my experience level grew. Currently, I feel very secure and confident in my fee and other than two spaces I save for sliding scale, everyone pays my full fee. I place great importance on feeling congruent and aligned with your value and fee.

Also…we are asking clients to place a large investment in something they can’t see, feel, or touch, and sometimes the path of healing is hard for them to grasp. If you, the therapist, hasn’t found the value in healing, and wouldn’t pay a therapist’s full fee, then how could we expect our clients to – as within, so without.

binary options “Clients only want to come for 10-12 sessions then they leave. They are only looking for short-term work”

Similar to above, I look within first and I would ask… “Is that the therapy you have done?” I believe that we can only take our clients to depths we have gone ourselves…so…have you only skimmed the surface in your own work? Perhaps your style of therapy doesn’t match what you seek in your caseload. Meaning…are you wanting long-term clients but the therapy you do is solution-oriented? Just questions to ask to take a look at why it may not be happening.

If you are aligned with the type of approach you provide than clients will follow. It is impossible to sell your clients on something you don’t believe in yourself. Again – as within, so without

binäre optionen “My clients frequently cancel or reschedule their appointments.”

I always start by looking within and I would ask, “How consistent are you with your scheduling? When you get opportunities with client cancellations, do you move people around so you can get more time off? Do you frequently cancel for doctors appointments, sicknesses, etc? Do you call your clients and ask them to move to different slots?”

If you cancel on your clients, they will cancel on you. If you don’t want to be in the office, they won’t show up. If you are overwhelmed and need a break, they will give it to you. If you frequently reschedule clients to make your schedule work better, they will do it to you. Again – as within, so without

What has worked for me was embodying within a frame that I want my clients to keep. A consistent caseload makes me feel safe and grounded. To get this, I hold the frame of my work with importance and always make sure I am holding my boundaries. My frame looks like this:

• I try to almost always return calls within 24hrs.

• I make sure I am in the office 30mins before my first client session so I’m not late.

• I start and end on time.

• I schedule clients in the same consistent weekly space.

• I only take new clients if I can commit to them long-term. I only put them in a space that is open long-term.

• I only cancel if I am very ill, or if the weather is too dangerous for travel.

• I don’t schedule appointments when I normally see clients.

• I don’t change client appointments unless it is out of my control.

• I show up for my entire workday even if a client cancels. It is important for me to hold the space of my work. When I start to wish my clients would cancel I know I’m in-trouble and I need resourcing and support.

• I don’t reduce my fee. I have two spaces for sliding scale. If someone can’t afford me fee, I usually have a trusted colleague or practice to refer them to.

• I make sure I have enough resources and support in my life to be fully present for my clients before they walk in my door. I understand that my life needs support so I can support my clients.

• I name the frame of my work and commit to clients who are aligned with the way I practice. I don’t pretend to be someone I’m not. I want a specific client across from me on my couch and I use all of my intention to make it happen.

While there are many other ways we can get in our own way and impact our practice, I just highlight a few to make the point that we can’t expect our clients to do what we don’t. We, as a reflection of our ideal client, could be sitting across the couch from us. We need to be in complete alignment with what we expect from our clients, have our own therapy under my belt, have personally experienced the process, find value and pay for the work, and  realize its importance in our lives.

And remember…this frame applies to private practice.

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